Ten Mistakes Nigerian Single Ladies Make During Dating and Relationship

1.       They offer sex too quick: how can you meet a man today and sleep with him tomorrow and still expect to be treated with respect

2.       They order too many food on first date: a guy begins to access you from the first day he meets you, starting from the first date; how you carried yourself, etc

3.       They turn to liability: it is so irritating to see how Nigerian single ladies have turned relationship and dating into a means of livelihood, and still expect to be respected and treated with dignity by men. You meet a guy today, next week you start telling him that you don’t have feeding money, recharge card, stories of your parents and siblings being sick and needing financial support, your hair, your birthday, in fact you start asking him to provide all your need for just being your boyfriend, when there are millions of other prettier girls out there, why won’t men be using and dumping, and why won’t they be telling lies to get into your hearts?

4.       They make marriage their front banner: in as much as marriage is a good thing, you don’t go about wishing to marry every guy that asks you out for a date. Men understand that marriage is a lifetime commitment, so they are often reluctant to discuss marriage with you when they are not yet guaranteed that you are that woman they would love to spend their life with, so stop acting as if the only thing you care about is marriage because it will scare away so many men (both good and bad).

5.       They assume the position of wife: yes, he loves you, he cares for you, etc…but please remember that you are not yet his wife, so he can discard you anytime because there is no legal binding to stop him or to discourage him, so stop acting like you are his wife- nagging about his hanging out with his male friends, doing everything that a wife does for him. But remember, there is always an exception because this can work for some people, but not always advisable, so use your senses.

6.       They use entrapment: getting pregnant for a guy will never guarantee that you will be his wife, so get that into your brains. Spending money unnecessarily on him to impress him won’t guarantee you his love either because most often he will use the excess spending to impress another girl of his choice, so be warned; they don’t buy a man’s love with money, you only earn it.

7.       They copy wayward female celebrities: most Nigerian single ladies of today sit in front of E!, Chanel 0, BET, etc, looking for the hottest female celebrity lifestyle and fashion to copy to the detriment of their personal character and career development, and at the end, their life is only glossy on the outside, and rotten on the inside, and can hardly retain a good man who came for good.

8.       Majority are internet/social network addicts: most Nigerian single ladies are now social network and internet browsing addicts, and guess what most are doing online? Searching for new friends, and chatting with existing friends either for fun or to meet up. You won’t believe that so many girls today will be with their boyfriends, fiancés, husbands, etc and still be busy chatting with a stranger man online, thereby distorting the communication line between them and their partners. Some will even lay beside their partner and be chatting with another stranger (male or female), without bordering to discuss issues with their partner. Internet and social network sites have destroyed communication between lovers, married couples, and the earlier we realize the harm, the better for all of us.

Again, internet is good, it can turn your life around if you make wise use of it, but being a social network addict will ruin your life. This addiction has caused many to loose passion and interest in cooking, or if at all they must cook, they either prefer to cook fast food, especially noodles, etc, so as to go back to the internet.

It is so disheartening to know that women who are supposed to be the ones guiding men on how to live a sane life, are now the ones leading the band of wayward lifestyle.

9.       They don’t test before they trust: our dear sisters are fond of trusting guys even before testing. How can you trust a guy who tells you that he is from Bayelsa, his parents live in Dubai, he used to work with Chevron, but now doing his masters to continue work after, and seriously searching for a good girl to marry, and it seems you are the one. Just because he was able to rap some good lyrics, your head begins to go gigolo for him and the next thing, you are sweating and mourning in his bed. Come on girls, wake up, test before you trust okay? All that glitters is not gold, and even if it is gold, some gold are not pure!

10.   They believe why men are treating them bad is because they Ask them for money-NO! This is where most single ladies get it wrong. Men aren’t dumping you because you don’t have money or because you ask them for money, nope. This belief is common amongst the working class, because they once experienced a failed relationship in which the guy once or twice complained that she is being too demanding or because she heard other girls complain same or guys complaining that ladies are just too materialistic and demanding, she now believes that once she starts earning her own money, all will be well, says who?

     

      Eventually she succeeds in making her own money, she starts feeling pompous and unconquerable; she starts to see men as nobody, and that’s always the beginning of her life trauma. This is one of the numerous reasons you see most pretty, elegant ladies still single and searching, and you will be wondering, why are they still single?

They misunderstood what men want in a woman, so they abandoned their character development to chase after money by all means, and by the time they have acquired the money, their character and manner towards men and women have turned horrible to attract true friends and suitors. And in most cases, when a nice man comes around, she treats him like rag, and before you know it, the relationship or marriage is over, and she is unhappy and single again SCREAMING: MEN ARE EVIL! THEY DON’T DESERVE TO BE LOVED,
says who?

Bonus reasons:

They carry their pain around: put your past away, face the future and revive your life again. Don’t allow your past failed relationships or rejections ruin your present or future relationship. It is over, it is over, let it go and let your life continue.

They don’t let go of a failed relationship: this is self explained, and I have earlier explained this topic, so go back and read it again.

They stay in a relationship for money: struggle to make your own money yourself so that you won’t stay or enter into a relationship just for money. Grab a copy of my book titled: How To Create Wealth from Nothing.

Keep a date with me, as we will soon continue on this very important topic…have a memorable xmas celebrations and a glorious march into 2013!