Love is a beautiful thing, no doubt, but when we confuse
lust for love and claim to be in love just because our selfish desires and
wants have been met, it can only lead us to a life of regrets later.
In this short article, we will be taking a look at some of
the vague reasons or factors that majority of 21st ladies consider before
agreeing to marry a man, and of course these reasons usually cause most single
ladies to end up making the wrong choice of life partner, which in turn lands
them in unhappy marriages that usually lead to divorce.
Remember, we didn't write this article to spite single
ladies or to encourage single guys out there not to work hard and groom, but to
enlighten both the male and female singles on the need to consider more
meaningful things that will not expose them to making the wrong choice of
marriage partner.
Now, what are those vague reasons why majority of ladies
marry the wrong man?
1. Height
Researches have shown that majority of women
consider height of a man first before even considering his manner and character
when it comes to accepting and rejecting a date or suitor.
Many women are in unhappy marriages today where they are
being used as the punching bag by their presumed husbands simply because they
were obsessed by the man's height initially, and turned down several wonderful
men who came asking them out simply because those men were not tall or didn't
appear as tall as they wished in their small feminine mind.
Ladies, it's high time to make adjustment; height is never a
determinant of good husband, neither does height of the man always determine
how tall his children will be.
2. Job/Profession
In as much as this seem to be normal, I want to disappoint
you ladies today by telling you that a man's present job or profession is never
a determinant of who he will become in some years to come, and you know why?
Things are changing, those profession you think are useless today may become
the hot-in-demand profession tomorrow as more and more people clinge on the
popular professions, thereby making them common and less demanding in the
market.
And again, remember that people lose their job on daily
basis irrespective of their position? That should be a good reason for you not
to select partner based on his present job, because he may lose that big job
you saw today tomorrow.
I know once a single lady hears: I am a doctor, they start
to dream about their wedding day with the young doctor, and when they hear; I
work with shell, they begin to plan the wedding ahead. These attitudes have
landed so many ladies in unhappy marriages that they ended up not seeing the
end, while some rushed out of the marriage faster than they rushed into it.
3. Apartment
As shocking as it may sound, do you know that so many ladies
got married to a man simply because he was living in a posh apartment with that
cozy setting? Little wonder why some single guys spend their last penny renting
and furnishing their apartment to entice ladies.
Ladies please listen and listen up; beautiful apartment is
good, but don't rush into agreement of marriage to him simply because he's
living in one of the coolest apartments in town; he could have rented it when
things were okay, it could be a fast deal that brought in the money he used to
rent and furnish it, and such deals are never sustainable remember? Think
ladies, think!
4. Car
I once overheard a group of successful young men mention
that with the way and manner Nigerian women get freaky about car, that it seems
Nigerian women's brain were used in manufacturing the bolts and nuts of cars,
and I couldn't stop myself from laughing out loud lol.
When will ladies stop being freaky about men's car? Even the
ladies that own cars and those their parents and siblings are driving expensive
cars can't stop getting freaky and slayed by guys in fancy cars, why ladies,
why?
Car shouldn't be a measure of wealth or readiness of a man
because there are guys who own successful businesses without owning a car,
whereas there are guys that are earning below ₦100,000 a month salary and
own very clean car that you may end up thinking they are managers of their own
company.
What determines a man's future is not his material
possessions now, but his intellectual possession, goals and drive for success.
Some guys you see trekking on the road now are richer than
some men you see seated at the car owner seat of the latest Toyota Land Cruiser
SUV, and only time can unveil that hidden secret, so look beyond his present condition now and consider his goals, ambition,
determination, plans and actions.
With the latest cars in vogue now, I wonder how women that
got enticed and impregnated by men because of Mercedes Benz v-boot and
Mercedes Benz 190 will be feeling now when they see the car pass by.
One thing ladies must understand about life is this: good
things can never finish, because your man isn't driving a Honda End of
Discussion today doesn't mean he wouldn't drive a better car tomorrow, give him
time, and stop concluding his future because of his condition now, remember,
only time can determine who and what we will become in life!
5. Six Pack and broad shoulders!
As funny as it may sound, do you know that many ladies are
getting married to guys just because of six packs?
I several occasions, I have overheard ladies fantasize about
marrying a guy with six packs, how they crave to run their fingers on his
broad shoulders and six packs while making love, and to them, that's enough
reason to say 'I do' to him and turn down the other no-six-pack,
no-broad-shoulder wonderful men with marriageable qualities, I pity your
children when hunger strikes!
Does Alike Dangote, Bill Gates, Mark Zuckerberg, Carlos
Slim, Mr. Forest, David Cameron, Vladmir Putin, Muhammadu Buhari, Goodluck
Jonathan, Barrack Obama, David Trump, TB Joshua, David. Oyedepo, Adeboye, Chris
Oyakhilome, Rochas Okorocha, Mike Adenuga, Ben Murray Bruce, Pat Utomi, etc
have six packs??? Ladies think!
Six packs, broad shoulders, pink lips, sexy lips, rich hair,
etc are physical qualities any man that has the means can acquire with little
time, dedication and budget, but those qualities that make a man honorable,
successful and respectable can never be bought or acquired, I am talking about
qualities like:
- humility
- being focused
- being intelligent
- being smart and witty
- being endearing
- being slow to anger
- visionary
- being determined
- being contented
- not being lazy
- being faithful
- being trustworthy
- being dependable
- being domestic
- being God fearing
6. Sex
In as much as sex is a very vital factor in marriage, saying
'I do' to a man simply because he can satisfy you sexually is as disastrous as
falling for a man because he's driving a latest car, and you know why? Because
his sex drive may change tomorrow when life pressure, financial pressure and
daily routine start to wear him out.
Don't compare how your university or Polytechnic campus
boyfriend makes love to you to how a mature man hustling to make money will
make love to you, of course the campus boy will perform better most times since
he's not worried about many things.
Our sex drive and performance is mostly determined by our
state of mind and stress level.
That guy that doesn't perform well in bed today may become
expert tomorrow if he becomes relaxed and commits his mind to the act, so don't
turn him down simply because he can't perform as you desire now, you can even
help him become an expert by passionately showing him the way.
7. Visa & Travel Opportunity
Nothing freaks a Nigerian girl like the fantasy of living
abroad and living that fantasy life she watches on Telemundo, Zee World and
Hollywood movies.
Yes, we all desire a good life, but don't slaughter your
future happiness out of selfish quest for momentary satisfaction of your
fantasy.
Who said you can't live your dream life here in Nigeria? Who
said you must travel abroad to live a fulfilled life? Who said living abroad
automatically makes you rich? Who said all people living abroad are living a
good life? Who said you can't make it successful in Nigeria?
Please emancipate yourself from mental slavery; living
abroad doesn't make you rich.
Many ladies have rushed to marry a guy simply because he
lives abroad, only to travel to meet him and discover that he's not as rich as
they thought, and not living a fancy life as the pictures they saw.
Remember, I am not saying it's wrong to marry a guy living
abroad, but please don't make the decision mainly because he lives abroad to
avoid later regrets.
Before you agree or disagree to marry any man, please ladies
seek for God's guide. God is a merciful God, irrespective of our sins, He is
still our father and will always answer our sincere prayers to Him.
Stop using your human wisdom, fantasy, greed and selfish
desires to select men if you don't want to regret later in life.
Wishing you guys the best of luck in your life's decisions.
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