Aside other obvious reasons that had been discussed over and
over in the past as to why there is an increasing number of spinsters in
Nigeria, I want us to look at another crucial factors why so many Nigerian
ladies are still single and putting their fate of finding a spouse in the hands
of chance and spirituality. You may be wondering what the reasons are, but they
are not farfetched from:
1.
Increasing
rate of youth unemployment: 70 to
80% of guys who are of marriageable age are either unemployed or underemployed,
so how will they think of entering into a committed relationship to talk of
marriage? Lets face the reality, a stable relationship or marriage requires
money to maintain, so how will the money come when majority of the youth male
population in Nigeria are not gainfully employed due to ever increasing rate of
unemployment and poor working conditions?
And as difficult as it may sound
for you to believe, the employment scale in Nigeria is tilting towards the
favor of ladies, what do I mean by this? It simply means that ladies in Nigeria
of today, now get good jobs more easily than the guys, and more ladies are
succeeding financially in Nigeria than the guys, which has created another problem
of its own in Nigeria- the singlehood syndrome.
And as funny as it may sound, most single guys are scared to approach
the working class ladies because they aren’t financially fit enough to face the
ladies who are now more financially, and career empowered than the guys.
Remember, every man needs ego and psychological balance to be able to approach
a woman of his dream or choice for a relationship or marriage, and this ego and
balanced psychology is often lacking when the man is not financially fit.
2.
The few
financially buoyant guys are scared, confused and not convinced to go into a
healthy relationship that will lead to marriage: remember, increase in
demand leads to scarcity. Because there are few financially buoyant single guys
in Nigeria, the huge number of single ladies who are so desperate to have a
ready-made guy, compete for them, hence, making the few financially buoyant
guys feel confused as to which lady to settle down with in either relationship
or marriage, while some get to conclude that all girls are bad and
materialistic due to the fact that so many ladies are after them directly and
indirectly, using all manner of tactics, including seduction and nudity.
What is the solution?
The solution should come from the
government first; they should do something to boost employment and
entrepreneurship opportunities for the Nigerian guys so that they can become
financially fit enough to startup a healthy, stable relation that would lead to
marriage and take the single ladies off the spinster market.
Lastly the single ladies on their
own part, should try and be more realistic with the present situation and start
accepting guys based on their dreams n not their financial worth and help in
building them, n stop being deceived by some ladies who cook up bad stories and
give bad testimonies that after suffering with a guy, when he succeeds, he will
boot the girl and go for another new girl, which is not always the case and
even if it exist, its rare, if the lady is good.
this is by far ur best and most sensible write up.... Frm beginning to d end made serious sense.... Fank u for this, and let d respective parties take note and make necessary corrections... Nuff said
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