Ladies, Here Is The Truth Why You Are Still Single

I know you are beginning to get bored of all these why you are single, why you are not married and why you get dumped, but hey, wait a minute and read this short piece, believe me, it may be a life saver to you and your clique of single female friends.

You have done everything, you have worked on your character, you have developed a career, and you have stopped depending solely on men for financial sustenance, and yet, there seem to be no sign of him coming to walk you to the altar, and you have started losing hope and faith in yourself and your ambition, and you have gone to several single seminars and church programmes to no  avail, and you are gradually beginning to hate the male folks, and wishing to harm them if possible, now hold it!

If you had been reading stories shared by single guys on facebook, and on public forums like nairaland, etc, you ought to have discovered that their complaints have one major thing in common- finance. The Nigerian male folks (rich and poor) aren’t happy with the females, especially in Nigeria, and you may ask why?

They aren’t happy that the females aren’t complying with the present global economy situation. Population has increased globally, and employment opportunities have not grown equally with the population, making it very difficult for able-bodied men to secure good jobs to take care of their basic needs to then talk of marriage. And again, in the past, lesser number of women worked in corporate organizations, etc, which meant more opportunities for the men, but today, we seem to have more number of women in good jobs than the men, and we still expect them to be 100% in charge of financial responsibilities in relationships and marriages, how?

Single ladies of today ought to be realistic for once and understand that the global economy of today isn’t as favorable and glossy as it was some decades ago, instead, they failed to realize this and keep expecting all men to be in charge of financial responsibilities in relationships and marriages.

You would agree with me that 70 to 80% of guys within the age range of: 25 – 35 are either jobless or underemployed (working below standard welfare), and these are the people that are supposed to be marrying the single ladies that are littered all around the country. On the other hand, 40 – 65% of single ladies within the age range of 25 – 35 are gainfully employed, and yet, they expect the men to take 100% care of their finance and welfare during relationship or marriage, is that justified?

Now, the honest reason why so many ladies in Nigeria of today are single is- GREED! You are working in a company, and you are single, and you keep ignoring all the potential single guys in your company and environment just because they aren’t your dream man ( tall, slim, dark, rich, manager, working with an oil and gas firm, telecom, and those earning above six digits).

Okay, let’s do the arithmetic- let’s assume all the single guys within the age range of 27 – 35 in Nigeria are 1,000,000 in number, and out of the 1million, only 50,000 of them have good job that pay above 6 digits or thereabout. And on the other hand, we have say- 1,500,000 single ladies within the age range of- 25 – 35, and out of the 1.5million single ladies ripe for marriage, 30,000 have good jobs, business or career and living very fine. Now, 500,000 out of the 1,500,000 ripe single ladies have their dream man as- a tall, handsome, dark, rich guy (presumably the 50,000 guys described above), and there are only 50,000 of that every-Nigerian-lady’s-dream-man in Nigeria, which means, 50,000 dream-men are being clamored for by 500,000 pretty single ladies, which can further be interpreted like this-

 10 pretty single ladies to 1 guy, and presently, religion (Christianity which is the dominant religion) frowns at polygamy, which means one guy out of the 50,000 every-Nigerian-lady-dream man must marry only one single lady out of the 1.5million single ladies, leaving 1.45million single ladies clamoring for the few available every-Nigerian-lady-dream-man.

In summary, there are very few single, tall, dark, rich guys in Nigeria, and there are excess number of pretty ladies desiring to have this tall, dark, rich guy as a husband or fiancée, which is why so many ladies are still single and searching, not necessarily because there are no potential suitors ready to marry them and even make them happy women.

Now, tell me, why won’t you fall victim to married men when you have placed your dream and expectation so high that it is very rare to find a young single guy that meets the exorbitant qualities you want in a man? You want a single guy who is not above 35 years, and who is tall and at the same time rich, and you forget to ask yourself how many of such men exist to even start with? Can’t you work together with a guy with potential and make him an enviable guy other ladies would dream to have and stop listening to devil-sent-ladies cooking up stories of how a guy they invested all their money on later dumped them for another girl after he became rich? Don’t you know that most women you see married to most successful men contributed in making those men whom they are? Must you wait for an already made man from heaven?  Have it in mind that those days are gradually going into extinction, so start now to build your own dream man. Must you keep wishing and daydreaming just because you watched a movie where it happened or you heard a story or you saw it happen to your friend and for that you start daydreaming for a king to come propose to you and take you to an already built palace?

The present economy has taught men to be more financially prudent and wise, and that’s why you see them running away from marriage because they know that most women just want to marry for the money and comfort of being catered for by a man, and not necessarily for true companionship and compatibility.

Because you are working and earning 500,000 naira a month, all men earning 150,000 and below a month are no longer your dream man, and in fact, they are classless and not-fit for you, and you feel so proud of it and you and you and your friends make jest of it and even brag about it, and you are still praying and fasting for a deserving husband, maybe in your dreams right?

You party and run around with rich guys and hang out with celebrity guys who already have a reserved girl back stage they would run back to for real commitment, and you keep daydreaming the day they would propose to you, hey sister, wake up day has break!

A Must Read Story

Before I go, let me share a true life story of a young girl who recently got married to the man of her dreams, maybe the story would teach you one or two things if you are still open to learn anyway cos most single ladies have locked their hearts from learning.

This young man was in a public taxi with three other passengers going home from work, and when they got to the first bus stop, all the other passengers alighted from the taxi remaining only him, meanwhile, his own bus stop is the last, so when they got to the next bus stop, a young lady dressed in a casual gown waved at the taxi and the driver stopped and picked her.

She was sweating when she boarded the taxi, and as soon as she sat, just beside the young man, she turned towards him with a smile, “goodevening sir,” the young man was embarrassed how a pretty young lady like that could greet, and not just greeting, but with “sir” added to it, so the young man responded casually, “evening ma, you must had been standing there for long I guess?”  and she smiled again, “yeah, and I was about trekking to the next bus stop,” she replied, “lucky you,” added the young man, “thanks,” she said and soon, they were at the final bus stop, and the girl brought out money to pay, the young man signaled her not to worry and he paid for both of them, and she thanked him and then coldly asked for her number, though he expected a no because he knew that was the usual practice by ladies when they meet a guy for the first time, but luckily for both of them, she gave him her digits and walked away, and that was her end of spinsterhood.

It happened that the young man’s car broke down at his work place, so he decided to take the public taxi, and that was how he met his wife, and they are happily married now.

The moral of the story: be nice, be humble, be friendly and be free with strangers because you never can tell their mission. Don’t plan to be friend and nice here and then otherwise somewhere else. Let your humility and respect for all humans shine wherever you go, and try to be open and calm always, it doesn’t take much to be humble and respectful, and it wouldn’t stripe you off your beautiful or trendy girl status, goodluck!