I want to
tell you that the reason you are not yet married isn’t just because you are not
beautiful, attractive, sexy or what have you, but it is because you have not
found the one. And why haven’t you found the one? Its simply because I am about
to explain it in this very article, so don’t go yet, hang on for some minutes
and read on.
During the
course of my personal career, I have had the opportunity of interacting with so
many ladies from different background and social status, and I must tell you
that majority of the single ones happened to be the prettiest and sometimes
elegant, when analyzing them from their physical appearance. But unfortunately,
when you interact with them and possibly get closer to them, you will discover
something scary, and those scary things are part of what I am about to discuss
in this article.
I have also
come to realize that too much of education and modern exposure, affect majority
of ladies negatively, please don’t scream yet, hang on. Now, how do I mean?
Have you discovered that when a lady is so much educated, she sees men as
nothing? And yet she desires to marry a man. Now, let me ask, is it possible
for anyone to acquire nothing? Nothing is simply nothing, and therefore, it is
impossible to acquire nothing. This is also applicable to financial empowerment
and exposure. If you also observe, when a lady is so much financially
empowered, she tends to disregard men around her, and these men are the likely
people she ought to marry, so how possible will she attract their attention with
that snobbish attitude towards men?
Please don’t
get me wrong here, I am not trying to say that it is wrong for a lady to be
educated or financially empowered, but I am only here to enlighten you on some
of the reasons why majority of ladies are still single without a committed
suitor.
It is very
painful to accept the hard truth that men are like employers of labor, while
women are like the employees when it comes to marriage proposal. It is only in
few cultures that it is practicable for a woman to propose and marry a man, but
majorly, it is the man that proposes and marries a woman, and for this reason,
the man is the employer while the woman is the employee.
With the
above description, I want to let you know that if you truly desire to find yourself
a deserving husband, then you must put yourself in this scenario of
employer-employee. If you have accepted the above scenario, I want to further
advice you to put yourself in the position of an employer, that’s the best way
to get hired or say, to pass a job interview- put yourself in the employer’s
position. Putting yourself in the employer’s position means you looking at what
an employer requires from a potential employee. If you are an employer, would
you hire an applicant with this and that skills? What skills will you look out
for before hiring an applicant? Those things you would consider before hiring
an applicant are the things you should equip yourself with as an applicant.
Now, as a
lady, put yourself in the man’s shoe- would you propose marriage to a woman
that has no regard and respect for men in the name of gender-equality and
modern civilization? Would you as a man marry a woman who contributes virtually
nothing to your life aside sex? Would you propose marriage to a woman that nags
from morning to night with no justifiable reason? Would you propose marriage to
a woman that controls your life, your movement, your emotion, your decision and
virtually everything about your life? Would you as a man propose marriage to a
woman that comes back cursing and abusing you after maybe borrowing you money
or contributing to the family’s welfare? Would you propose marriage to a woman
who is out to separate you and your loved ones, and is prepared to disbranch
you from every of your friends just to be with her alone? Would you as a man
propose marriage to a woman that hardly takes advice or instruction from you
maybe because she earns higher than you or because she comes from a more
financially buoyant family than you? These are some of the things you need to
do away with as a single lady searching for love.
Men are
sensitive, they sense these traits in you even when you don’t know, and the
ones they fail to observe, their male friends would definitely alert him; men
are fond of assessing their friend’s lover, you can’t change that.
I sometimes
hear some single ladies complain that all the good men have been taken, how and
when? There are as many good men out there as there are good women too. Because
you haven’t found your match, doesn’t necessarily mean there’s no match for
you.
Again, you
need to lower your expectations and make yourself more visible and approachable
by men, it won’t cost you much besides humility and friendliness. You can’t be
searching as a lady and go about abusing every man around you, including those
you don’t know. It doesn’t matter if they are below or above you, you
definitely need to humble yourself and respect all men, maybe your husband may
come from referral through one of those men you had been looking down at, you
just never can tell. That is why you need to maintain good rapport with
majority of men around you, and not just men, but women too.
In summary,
you are not yet married or seriously engaged because:
1. You scare men
2. You are not approachable
3. You haven’t made yourself visible
4. You are still living in your past
5. You disregard men
6. You see men as nothing while desiring
to marry one
7. You are not friendly to people around
you; it scares men away from you
8. You are too pompous
9. You don’t treat yourself with respect
10. You have ill-manner and character
that isn’t good for marriage
Please do
keep an eye on more updates on this very topic coming very soon. Wishing you
good luck in your relationship endeavor. Cheers.
© 2012 Ngozika Nwiro. All rights reserved.
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