What Men Want From Their Woman But Won’t Tell Them During Dating

What Men Want From Their Woman But Won't Tell Them During Dating

In my continued effort to ensure people are informed of the various tactics used by players, especially the playboys to deceive innocent girls and lure them into love only to break their hearts in a no distant time, I have come up with this short piece aimed at exposing some of the secrets men harbor in their hearts while dating you as a girl.

Men are naturally cunning, yes; they are often times, especially when it has to do with dating, love or relationship with the opposite sex. Sometimes, they are not to be blamed, so to put yourself on the safer side, just think like a man and act like a woman, this way, you wouldn’t be caught up in between dating a man you love with all your heart, when he has no single likeness for you aside to sleep with you, waste your time and dump you when he’s done.

It hurts me daily reading stories from heartbroken ladies, it hurts me seeing innocent ladies get dumped by men they gave their whole heart, body and soul, and this is why I always try my best to advice ladies without being biased, to always be wary of men and to zip up at all cost.

Now, what are those things men want from a woman and wouldn’t tell their girlfriends?

Number one: men want freedom; absolute freedom. Yes, while a man runs after you for a date, or a committed relationship, the truth is that he doesn’t want you to be another source of restriction or commander in his life. Men are like wild animals, they do not enjoy being confined in an environment, or being tied down by a woman in the name of relationship, unlike domestic animals that enjoy being kept indoors and fed with spoon.

This is one of the numerous reasons why men cheat, why they get bored with ladies they professed to love. Now, if you want a man to respect and love you, give him his freedom while showing him you care about his welfare. Don’t ever make the mistake of trying to control him or watchdog his every moves in an attempt to prove that you truly love him and wouldn’t dare sharing him with another woman. If you do any of those, then be prepared to lose him sooner or later.

Number two: because of the number one reason, men dislike marriage if not for the fact that society celebrates marriage, and again for the sake of having kids, most men of today, wouldn’t marry, not because women are bad, but because they want total freedom to do whatever they please, to mingle with their school mates, colleagues at work and business associates. Therefore, if you want a happy relationship or marriage with a man, please give him his freedom while showing him you love him. Don’t let a man sense the feeling of marriage in you while still dating you, this scares majority of men, but they won’t tell you this hard truth.

If you want a man to desire to marry you, don’t tell him about marriage; tell him about hanging out, going places, building businesses, developing careers, becoming the greatest person. Always let him see your desire for greatness; don’t ever make the mistake of letting a man know that you are afraid of the future, or that you don’t know what future holds for you. Men are the most insecure being on earth, but they rather tag it to women for the sake of ego, don’t mind them; they want to mingle with a lady with great dreams, visions and aspirations, and not a lady with fear of tomorrow.

 Number three: while dating you and professing love to you; men don’t want you to depend on them solely for everything you desire in life. They want to see a bit of independence in you; they want to see you taking charge of your life.

In order words, don’t try to be his wife when you are still his girlfriend. Men love dating more than marriage, so always make him feel that you are his girlfriend and not his wife, cos men are often times scared of that feeling of having a wife to monitor and depend on them for virtually everything. And if eventually you end up becoming his wife, don’t throw away your girlfriend acts; surprise him always with fun things, romantic stuffs, etc. Don’t relax with the belief that you have arrived, that it is for better for worse, nope…keep surprising him like his girlfriend would, and he will never play with you.

Number four: men are jealous, more jealous than you think, even when they deny it, don’t mind them. Men are jealous of many things, viz. you caring more about your friends than him, you caring more about your career, education, family, fashion, etc. While he dislikes you clinging so much on him, he wants to feel on top, he wants to have this special feeling that he is the one and only one in your heart. He wants to have this feeling that he is the most precious thing in your life, and if he senses it in you while you give him freedom and care at the same time, believe me, you will forever remain the queen of his heart.

Number five: men always want you to look as pretty, sexy, and stunning as you looked the very day they approached you for the first time. They want you looking pretty and young even though they are aware of the effects of ageing and all of that, but they hate to accept that truth about nature, and for this singular reason, so many men had landed into cheating in an attempt to make up for what they expect from their real partner. It is sad though, and that’s why you as a lady, ought to try to always keep abreast with the fashion trend, and do not abandon your skin or diet in view that you are officially married with kids. If you do, you stand greater chances of being cheated by your man.

Number six:  while men enjoy good communication between them and their relationship partners, they dislike a talkative woman. Yes, majority of men dislike this quality in a woman. He may not tell you this for the sake of tolerance and maybe love, but he sure wouldn’t want you to continue being a talkative, so drop that as soon as possible for your own good.

Number seven: majority of men dislike a woman that smokes, and get drunk. He may approve this for the dating period, but it is most likely that he won’t settle down with you for marriage, that’s the hard truth, so be careful while catching fun.

Number eight: men want to see you happy most times. They hate seeing you unhappy. They want to see people talking good about you. They hate seeing you quarreling with your friends, your neighbors, your siblings, and everyone around you, it scares them even though he might join in fighting for you and defending you at the moment, but definitely he isn’t happy. He feels insecure seeing you in constant disagreement with your co-workers, your subordinates, your employees, your mechanics, in fact everyone you relate with. A man wants to see you relate passionately in a friendly way with people around you, this assures him of happiness, love and peace of mind, if at all he chooses to tangle with you. So do your best to stay away from quarrels, fights and beefing; either with those below or above you.

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